Over the past several weeks, we’ve been looking at the example of the Excellent Wife shown in Proverbs 31. This week we’re taking a look at verse 16.
She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
Not many of us are running around today considering fields and planting vineyards. So how does this apply to us in our daily lives?
What we are able to see in this example of an Excellent Wife is a woman who is intentional about where she invests her time, money, and energy. The first thing that’s being pointed out is that she has considered the field. This means that she has thoroughly studied it to know it’s true value and how well it will support what she desires to do.
Do we do that with the opportunities that we come across? Do we truly stop and consider how this opportunity will impact our ultimate goals? Or do we act too quickly? Either jumping completely into unknown waters…. or the total opposite, do we run in the other direction out of fear?
Both are the harmful.
The first — jumping in without a true understanding — is dangerous and careless.
The second — immediately saying no out of fear (or whatever else is holding us back) shows a lack of trust in God.
The good news is that 99.99% of the time, we don’t have to do either. Very few opportunities require a “right here, right now” decision. Generally speaking with most of the opportunities that we are presented with, we are able to take at least a little time to consider whether or not this is an opportunity that God is calling us toward.
Here are some questions that can help you discover what to do with the opportunities you are facing
✽ How long have you prayed over this decision?
✽ What are the pros and cons of taking this opportunity? Of NOT taking it?
✽ What decision would best align with your faith?
✽ What long term goals will this opportunity impact?
✽ In what ways could this opportunity impact your family? Your ministry? Your other priorities?
✽ What fears are influencing your decision about this opportunity right now?
✽ What is your gut telling you about this opportunity?
✽ What does your spouse or significant other have to say?
✽ How well does this decision align with your passion, values, and/or calling?
✽ What will you have to say “no” to if you say “yes” to this decision?
✽ What sort of external pressure are you feeling around this decision?
✽ What learning/growth opportunity is available to you as you make this decision?
After the Excellent Wife has considered the opportunity and determined that it is indeed a good fit for her, she then commits herself to doing the hard work to make this opportunity a success. In the example, we see that she is diligent to work the field to nurture and grow a fruitful vineyard. Because she thoroughly considered the field first, she knew what kind of work was going to be involved when she started. Are we honest with ourselves in this way?
Quite frankly, we usually lie to ourselves around this issue. We have a tendency to think that an opportunity will not take as much time, energy, or our financial resources as what it actually requires. This often leads to us being overwhelmed, overworked, and burnt out.
Three things that would have been completely unnecessary if we would have just prepared in advance.
In all, what we can take away from Proverbs 31:16 is the need to be careful and deliberate about the things we are committing ourselves to. We can’t jump into everything that comes our way. We only have so many hours in a day…. and only so much of ourselves to give.
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Questions for reflection:
✽ What opportunity are you facing right now?
✽ What is one of the questions above that you are struggling to answer?
Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.