I stood there looking in the mirror, disgusted, disappointed, and ready to hide in a cave until the image looking back at me resembled more of my high school body than the soft, out of shape, extra large figure I’d become.
I was so done with me. And I was determined to do something about it.
Now. Ok. Maybe not now. But tomorrow. Tomorrow I would wake up and go for a run first thing.
I would create a perfect running plan. I would buy the perfect shoes. I would even get that new watch to track all of my runs so I could see my progress.
Me and my good buddy Will, (you might know him as Mr. Power) were going to do. this. thing. A plan, coupled with good ole Will Power would whip this body back into shape in no time, for sure!
You already know how the rest of this story goes… I didn’t go for a run. Shoot, I didn’t even get up on time. I did get a snazzy new watch and a cool pair of running shoes, however.
Maybe you can relate to this story and have a similar one of defeat to go right alongside it.
Here’s the deal, as good of a friend as he may be, Mr. Will Power sucks at actually helping you do anything that you’ve struggled with for a while. Why? Well I’m so glad you asked.
Will power is a part of us. It’s sort of like our alter ego that sleeps a lot and only gets up and motivated when we we’re standing over it yelling “Look at this place! Get your butt up and DO SOMETHING!”
This works as well for our alter ego as it does for teenagers. As long as we’re yelling and mad about it, yeah, it does what it’s supposed to. But as soon as the emotions come down and nobody is paying attention, it’s nap time again and Mr. Will Power is out of commission.
Clearly this dude can’t be trusted to help us achieve our goals. So what’s a girl to do?
We have to get to the root of whatever is holding us back
And believe it or not, those things that are holding us back are always Always ALWAYS our thoughts.
Always and without exception.
See, Will Power gives us that little extra push, but if we are still chained to our old ways of thinking, nothing is going to change. Even if we can find enough push to make a temporary change, nothing is going to stick permanently until we make some serious changes in the conversations that go on inside our minds.
We have to change our thinking.
It really is that simple. And it really is that difficult.
See, thoughts are habits too. Unlike the visible habits that the world can see, however, our thoughts are playing on a loop in the back corners of our minds. These thoughts are back there whispering things like, “You can’t do that,” or “Why even bother,” or “You’re just going to fail again,” or my personal favorite, “But what will people think?”
There’s no need for shame around these thoughts. No amount of shame or self-punishment is going to help you in actually dealing with the problem.
Instead, have understanding for yourself and your thoughts. They are there for a reason. They served you at some point in your life…. they’re just not serving you in the way you want them to serve you now. So embrace them for what they are and for what they’ve done for you in the past. Then show those thoughts the door. They’ll come back and visit occasionally – more often at first and then less and less frequently. Each time they do, acknowledge them and gently say goodbye.
Then learn talk to yourself in a different way. Talk to yourself the same way you would talk to your best friend. Encouraging, understanding, and gently pushing to keep striving and to keep moving forward.
My friend, no matter what you’re doing in your life or in your business today, Mr. Will Power is only going to help you get so far. It’s time to have a serious sit down with yourself and work through those thoughts that are keeping you back.
That’s how you’re going to find freedom from the chains that Will Power just can’t break through.
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